Hello everyone.
Its been a while but i can say a lot has happened.
Some good some not so good.
Firstly i have recently moved and now under a completely new LEA.
I am at present also home teaching my son.
He was at his present school for about a year , I say present has he is on the school role but i am teaching him at home.
For the right child his present school is excellent but Daniel is not the right child.
i doubt he will ever be the right child but unless he gets a place in an autism specific school we or he wont ever know and time is beginning to run out.
There is a chance of a space at an autism specific school but its a matter of waiting to see if funding can be arranged.
The sad thing about this is the fact that the LEA have wasted money in the past by not placing him where he should have been to begin with.
The problem at the school where he is still presently on the role is by a teachers addmission is that he makes some teachers angry. And a recent comment WE have done our best . Daniel dont need them trying their best. He needs the right education with teachers who have right kind of training not teachers trying there best.
Im sorry but a few teachers with basic training in autism does not mean that they know everything.
i dont see how you can have basic training. You need to understand a lot more than a few basic things if you are to understand
anyone with autism. the first rule is stay calm . How can teachers shouting breaking the first rule help Daniel.
And the fact that they think he can change so he fits in to the big wide world when he leave school. You can not do that. if you could no one would have autism after being changed into a a normal person after going through school.
Why do they think they can change him. all they do is make him feel depressed and the anger shown to him by some teachers such as shouting at him just makes him react.
This may sound harsh but when you know the right schools are out there and its your child not getting the right placement and seeing what the wrong reactions and punishments do to him because he happens to have autism it outrages you.
Can he help it if he dislikes being touched. does it mean he should get over the fear of being touched just because that person is blind or in a wheel chair . do we tell a person who cant see to stop worrying if a car is coming and just walk.
It seems that his autism has not been taken into account on numerous occassions and the fact that he has disapeared and no one in the school knew if he had left the school or not has brought us to the point where i cant sit at home wondering if he is depressed or being punished for being autistic and do they know where he is.
Could anyone sit at home knowing they had lost the whereabouts of there child even if they were not autistic.
The head says they can do this and do that.
but they cant because they dont have the man power.
They could not even make it possible for someone to always be there to offer him support or comfort when he has been order out the class for saying things that to him are the truth. Back to the literal side of things, BUT thats daniel he says it like he sees it. they are supposed to according to educational statement of needs be sympathic to the reasons why he may say what he says. but they cant because sometimes other children in the class will laugh and then the teacher has to make an example to keep order. By dishing out play time detentions etc. This will not stop Daniel being literal . Shouting or getting angry wont teach him to be calm.
It seemed ok considering it was not autism specific at first.
Daniel now feels all the teachers hate him. They can not deal with him because they dont understand him.
i was told other autistic children there follow all the rules so he should .
Rules mean nothing to a child with autism plus all autistic children are different.
i said it once i will say it again. if you have met one autistic person then you have met one person who is autistic.
it thats word again. ""spectrum"". because every autistic person is different .
I could be teaching Daniel until september . it could be until next week but the fact remains
i know he is safe and wont be punished for being himself and while i am not the greatest brain on earth i'm sure we will
be able to learn from each other until i get the funding from the LEA .
so lets round this up.
The teachers do not know how to deal with Daniel .
They do know how to teach children who are blind or in wheel chairs.
WHY BECAUSE THEY DONT HAVE
difficulty with social communication
difficulty with social interaction
difficulty with social imagination.
Daniel does not understand the unwritten social rules which most of us pick up without thinking.
He will
appear to behave 'strangely' or inappropriately, as it is not always easy for him to express his feelings, emotions or needs.
Why should he be shouted at because the teacher has to make an example.
do they force kids to climb a flight stairs in wheel chairs to show the ones who can walk that everyone must follow the same set of rules .
No.
so why do they try and force kids with autism to climb barriers they cant and then punish them when they bloody fail.
He cant Change . Its like i said before
AUTISM IS A REASON NOT AN EXCUSE
Daniel has autism ocd and ADHD all these present behaviour difficulties if cetian things like loud noise or if he is touched
or he may be honest to the point of rudeness.
They say they cant allow this .
The schools states that no child with a history of behaviour problems shall be considered.
They tell me that they can teach him.
Well he may be on the SChool role .
He gets his attendance mark as well.
But until they fund him at an autism specific school he remains at home with us.
